2025’s Best Dating Advice: By Male Experts

With terms like ‘Men are trash’ still swimming around in the dating pool, it highlights the importance of Brits remembering to rank love a little higher on their priority list in 2025, and surround it with positive connotations and not just the negative ones.

This is because with it being the end of the year, this is the time when you see people trying to get their lives in order and curate some new year's resolutions to hold themselves accountable within the new year.

And solely based on statistics alone, the main goals that we often see year in and year out are to do with saving more money, and working on their health and fitness. 

Statistics have very much proven this to be true as, January is the busiest month for heading to the gym across the UK, with it being 28% busier than months like December and 10% busier than the previous October, November and December combined.

Reinforcing the idea that health is very much the top of Brits priority list.

Why Love should be on your new year's resolution list.

However what if Brits decided to add a new goal to their new year's resolution list ?

Instead of just focusing on the serious stuff like money, diets and weight, what if people stopped putting love on the backburner and instead ranked it a little bit higher on their priority list.

This is because believe it or not, creating and curating meaningful relationships is very important, as just like the Beatles say, ‘All we need is love’, as without it you can end up feeling lonely and isolated.

Despite loneliness being deemed an ‘old people problem’, stats have found that 16 - to 29-year-olds are twice as likely to be chronically lonely than those who are over 70.

Therefore maybe 2025 is your year to delve inwards so then you can find love outwards, and if you are unsure this is where the experts come in.

The Evntful Date Night Podcast. 

With love and relationships being a very complex topic, sometimes if you don't have the answers right away, then you should look to the experts. 

Yes this may appear daunting or scary, however thanks to social media and podcasts like, 'The Evntful Date Night Podcast' it takes the pressure away, as it's like having your own personal agony aunt or an older sibling to confide in. 

If you look at their most recent episode they feature male dating expert Kit, who provides a male perspective on dating and the red flags that you should look out for, which is very insightful and would be good for singles who may be looking to date, and may not know what to look out for.

So let's delve into what two of the dating experts think and get a male's perspective on things. 

Kit Esuruoso

I think it's only right to start with Kit Esuruoso as our first male dating expert, to get the ball rolling. As he has over 10 years of experience within the field, and if you've listened to ‘Evntful Date Night's most recent podcast, he definitely sounds like he knows what he's talking about.

So Kit, who prides himself as being the number 1 dating expert, has received over 30 million views online and has a reputation of being the UK’s very own Hitch.

If you don't know what Hitch is then you need to take a nose dive into Will Smith's film catalogue and get yourself familiarised. 

However if you take a look at Kits website Slick With Kit, he states that he has, “Helped thousands of women who feel stuck in their dating life understand and attract a high quality man who wants to build an exciting future. 

He also goes on to say that he has found a predictable pattern behind what a majority of men are looking for from women.

So what advice does he have to give ?

When listening to the podcast, Kit dropped a number of gems which I feel women would find useful.

This is because he initially discusses how, “Nowadays we live in a culture where there's a narrative that to be masculine, it is to be wrong and to be toxic”.

“So now the standard of behaviour is the feminine behaviour. But the irony is that most women don't want a man who’s feminine. They don't want a man that's going to look to you to make the plan, look to you to lead, look to you to provide the frame of your relationship”, which I very much can acknowledge”.

As a result, this leaves many guys confused.

So to make things more clear Kit suggested to “send him choosing signals”, if you are out and feeling a guy.

As the example he gave was that, if you are in a bar 80% of guys in the bar would want to approach you but 79% feel they don't have the permission to. Therefore to give permission you must Initiate a level of indirect contact.

That could be eye contact/smile/ wave if you have the courage to let them know that you are interested. 

So what do you think, will you be giving ‘choosing signals’ when you are next out, or will you be sticking with your girls.

Matthew Hussey 

The second male dating coach I would like to talk about today is Matthew Hussey.

Hussey, who is also a dating and relationship coach, has helped millions of women get the love life of their dreams through his New York Times bestselling book, sold-out live seminars, and powerful training videos.

His proven approach inspires women to find love through advice that is honest, authentic and practical; so they not only get the relationship they deserve but feel confident and in control of their own happiness.

Hussey's Advice.

In one of Hussey's many videos providing advice to signals titled, ‘6 Signs They’re Serious About You” he states that, “There is a crucial distinction we have to make and that is the distinction between attention and intention”.

He makes it very clear that attention is not intention and attention is in fact a drug. As singles often get excited when they receive attention from a love interest which leads to them prematurely making plans and scenarios in their head when the other person hasn't even made their intentions clear. 

Therefore to prevent getting your time wasted you should look for curiosity from your date and also from yourself, which will help signal whether you are actually interested in them or not, and vice versa.

Another sign would be to see if they follow up on a date which once again reinforces whether your date is interested in you or not.

So if you are going to take anything from this post next time you're dating ask yourself is it attention or is there intention.

Applying the experts advice

As I previously mentioned, dating can be a very complex topic which can be difficult to understand and navigate. However with the experts advice you may now have more of a fighting chance to take the balls by the horn and get back out there.

Don't get me wrong the experts don't always get it right, as if you look at shows like Married At First Site UK, not many of the matches made by the experts stood the test of time.

However if you are clear with what you want and who you want and don't stay on the delulu train too long then you should be good to go.

Credits:



• UK Active: https://www.ukactive.com/news/january-gyms-over-half-of-brits-go-to-the-gym-to-manage-a-health-condition/#:~:text=January%20is%20the%20busiest%20month,start%20their%20New%20Year's%20resolutions. 
• UK Dating Dictionary: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/evntfuldating_the-gen-z-dating-dictionary-activity-7198715942573408256-QMvU 
• The Beatles: All you need is Love.
• The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/aug/21/young-single-women-lonelier-than-ever-community 
• Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/4w6cLzIjuKD2VP6WBZyo6v 
• Kit Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/kit_is_me/?hl=en 
• Slick With Kit: https://www.slickwithkit.com/ 
• Matthew Hussey:  https://matthewhussey.com/ 
• 6 Signs They’re Serious About You:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1cTfu4w-nUc